I’ve had two isolated instances happen to me on Facebook within the same week that I felt were worth writing about. I’ve made it no secret the love-hate relationship I have with social networking. I frequently break-up with Twitter and I treat Facebook like the jump-off. Hell the only reason why I opened a Facebook account (a year and a half ago) was because nobody was on Mysapce anymore. Which I deleted as soon as I hooked up with Facebook, no need to cheat on the former.
At any rate, I’ve seen how Facebook has destroyed lives. Or rather, people use Facebook as a means to broadcast their daily dramas which results in lives destroyed. Let me talk about what happened to me.
Facebook Situation One
A few days ago the fiance of my high school ex sent me a friend request on Facebook. Now mind you, my ex and I have known each other for over ten years. We’ve been through a lot but nothing that would have kept us from remaining really good friends. Our little teenage trials and tribulations weren’t that serious anyway. We haven’t been like “that” since 2005 and we hardly interact on Facebook. So I get this random request and I wasn’t really sure of what to do. I didn’t know what her intentions were. I figured it could have been one of two things. One, she could just be one of those over zealous partners that wants to get to know all her man’s friends or, two, she could be one of those possessive partners that wants to screen all of her man’s friends. I wasn’t sure what I was in for but since I didn’t have anything to hide and since my friendship with my ex is innocent I went ahead and added her. Well….a few days later I got my question answered when I saw her airing her relationship drama on her status feeds before changing her status from “engaged” to “single”. My guess is that she wanted to see what I was about and investigate any exchanges between my ex and I. Totally lame I know but it was kind of amusing. I kinda want to delete her but I don’t have the heart to do it.
Facebook Situation Two
Had a guy I’ve been very, very light weight talking to0 for the past couple of months. Decent guy, though I knew very early on that it wasn’t going to go very far. So yesterday I get this text message
“Hey sorry I got back with my ex girl sorry….she has my fb msg and she got pissed so sorry”
ARE YOU SERIOUS DUDE??? All I could do what smh, wtf, and lmao all at the same time. Granted, the messages between him and I were pretty tame but they were pretty clear that we had something going on. Besides, if he was telling the truth, anything that happened with us occurred before he got back with his ex so she had no real reason to be mad. What was funny was the fact that he was freaking out. Clearly, he fucked up in major may. Not only for not being real with me about his intentions to get back with his ex but also for allowing her to gain access to his Facebook page to begin with. So apparently she hacked his Facebook page and read the last message I sent him because he kept texting
“If she replies don’t answer her plz”
“Tell her nothing plz”
“Im soooo sorry I just don’t want any drama just don’t reply to her”
Well shit, I don’t want any drama either! So while I’m busy trying to remove myself from this disaster of a situation I’m wondering how the hell I found myself in it to begin with. The only saving grace to the whole thing was that I was never feeling him like that enough for me care about a random ex-girlfriend popping up. It was actually pretty comical once I stopped being annoyed at him for being such a dumb ass. If you’re going to do dirt at least cover your tracks a lot better. Facebook will get you caught up.
And that’s my point. I’ve seen people’s lives play out on Facebook like a soap opera, or really bad reality television. In the year and a half that I’ve had a Facebook account I’ve seen it destroy relationships, instigate family feuds, and damage friendships. I find this troubling because what happens on a computer screen is never as serious as the harsh reality of the real world. The day-to-day struggle is full of enough drama without allowing it to reflect in our social networking. But this is coming from someone whose had her drama played out a bit on her social networking so maybe this post makes me a hypocrite. Besides, what do I know? Absolutely nothing, I”ll readily admit it. I guess until I figure out this thing called life I’ll just continue to sit back and watch the show.
*logs back on to Facebook*