We all deserve to be happy. Our ability to be happy has mostly to do with our frame of mind, how we internalize our experiences. Yet a bit of it is tied to our relationship with others, how we interact with the people in our lives.
There was a short period where my friend and I weren’t getting along. Every conversation seemed to turn into an argument. We couldn’t communicate without creating tension and frustration. At a certain point, my friend made a statement that stuck with me.
“If we’re fighting all the time then what’s the point?”
The wisdom in such a simple statement was enough to make me sit down, shut up, and really think. I mean, the comment was a valid one. If all we were doing was arguing what was the point? I had to admit to myself that there wasn’t one. No sane person wants to deal with someone they always fight with. The realization was enough to make me shift how I responded to them.
It also made me think about how it applied to all of my relationships, or rather the ones I am in control of. When dealing with friends, family, and significant others things won’t always be perfect. You will not always get along. You will be challenged. You will have conflicts. That is a fact. I don’t believe that a person should cut a person off over a few disagreements but when the bad times are more frequent than the good and things stop being fun, then what is the got damn point of maintaining a relationship with that person?
We cannot be happy nor balanced if we are in constant conflict with the people in our lives. Our relationships should contribute to our happiness, not hinder it. If they aren’t fun then what positive purpose could they possibly serve?