Social networking has become the cesspool of validation. People put just way too much merit into it and many use social networking as a way to define who they are. Every blog post commented on, every retweet, every new Facebook follower gives people a greater sense of self. Likewise, every blog post ignored, every lost Twitter or Facebook follower is a sign of personal rejection. I kinda find this fascinating.
I also find this to be the silliest thing I’ve ever witnessed.
I mean, come on. Most of our “followers” and “friends” are people we don’t even know in real life. If we do know them, it’s in passing and the friends and family we might be close to are a small percentage of our following. This means that we are essentially giving hundreds (or however many followers/friends we have) the power to dictate how we view ourselves. I don’t know about anyone else, but I personally don’t believe in giving others such power. But this is coming from the person who cares little of what others think of her. #kanyeshrug
My point is that nobody knows you better than you know yourself, so why allow anyone to define you? That’s something only you can do. Any truth, any validation needs to be sought from within. Not without. Even when you are on the journey of self discovery, the key word here is self. One can seek opinions from the masses, but at the end of the day everyone speaks from their own experiences and each experience is unique. The only experiences that can truly define who I am and validate my sense of self, are my own. I create my own well of wisdom.
And I’d rather drink from my own well than shit in someone else’s cesspool.