Recycle. Reduce. Reuse
I have to thank my girl Voz for the inspiration behind this blog. Her witty cynical wisdom is always on point.
I guess this is a slight continuation on my blog about rebound relationships. While that post was pretty generic, consisting of personal observation and experience and not directed at anyone specifically, this one focuses on those that choose to immediately pick up a discarded relationship, while it’s still warm.
I’ve mentioned before that there are some people who get off on staking claim on something that was not originally theirs, a primal territorial pissing if you will. I find women to be more prone this type of behavior than men. Men don’t like to share and prefer to be the original owners of something. Women are entirely different creatures. Many of us are driven by the competition and those that are less secure than others will feel some sort of pride in the sense of ownership of a man who another is interested in. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the man himself but the attitude that “I have someone who SHE wants”. This is where you will see what I call “relationship peacocking”, where the particular woman will go out of her way to make the relationship more than what it is. She will brag. She will show out. She will put extras on it. She will take every opportunity to talk about her relationship to everyone that will listen as a way to incite the jealousy from others that will boost her suffering self-esteem.
So what does this all have to do with rebound relationships? Well, territorial pissing and relationship peacocking is exactly the type of behavior that is often seen in fledgling rebound relationships. A wise person wanting a long-term commitment with someone recently out of a relationship will give it time and build a solid foundation. Most people will want something fresh and new without old residue clinging to it. Those without that wisdom don’t mind being the rebound. The Bag Lady of Romance. There is nothing original about a rebound relationship. It will exhibit the same patterns, the same characteristics of the previous relationship and the Bag Ladies of Romance are the collectors of this compost of companionship. The compost before its turned that is. Yet no matter how much one recycles, reduces, and reuses the product will never be the original, nor as good a quality. Cheaper, yes. Durable, no.
So while some are content on collecting something old I would rather focus on creating something new.